Internal Truth-Telling
Internal Truth-Telling is a practical way for us to return home to ourselves.
Our emotions and the stories in our head that we tell ourselves are simply there asking to be seen and listened to.
Oftentimes the only thing we are trying to do is to fix them.
We believe we shouldn’t feel them or think that way or we are scared that once we will give them the attention they want to have, they will never leave us.
We reject, distract and avoid our own truth, while actively trying to seek happiness and peace outside of ourselves. This is when we go to food, to Netflix, to our phones, to drugs or alcohol. We try to cope by resisting what is.
Internal truth-telling supports us in diving into these part of us that feels it all in a safe and more structured way. Through this method we put this part in the spotlights for a moment, in the middle of the stage within ourselves.
Here it gets all the attention it asks for. So that then, when it has felt seen & acknowledged, it steps back into the background naturally.
Concepts like positive thinking and switching our mindset are beautiful, yet I sometimes feel like they are not allowing enough space for us to feel what needs to be felt for us to return to these peaceful states naturally.
I want to offer you this method as a way to experience peace & connection with ourselves without having to force or actively seek it. It will be the simple remainder after we have given our presence & curiosity to the parts within us that ask for that.
The anger may be there
The sadness, however long it stays, is allowed to be there
The fear, how unrealistic it may be, is allowed to be there
It doesn’t mean we are making choices from these emotional places.
Quite the opposite tends to happen.
When we allow the emotion to simply be there as is, we experience a softness that drips into the situation we reflect it upon.
When we give space for all our emotions, instead of making our mind decide what is okay to feel and what is not (reminder: It is still okay if your mind is telling you this. That story is allowed to be there too!), we let go of the resistance.
It is within the resistance that we suffer, not the experience itself.
When we allow the natural unfolding of the emotion, it may be intense, but it is never unbearable.
Sometimes a good cry can be one of the nicest things to do for yourself.
Internal truth-Telling is my way to give space for these moods and emotions I carry.
Since I have been young I used writing as a way to organise my thoughts . By putting it down on paper I created some distance also from me and the stories in my mind, as if they became a little bit less ‘of me’ and a little bit more ‘of the world’.
I think that writing does that for us.
We all experience the same things all the time. Even the thoughts we have that we feel ashamed or guilty of, are carried by so many others too. Common humanity is a real thing!
This method has three parts, with some little steps in between them.
Fase 1: Gifting curiosity, acknowledgement & attention
Fase 2: Affirmations of care
Fase 3: Meeting your needs with love